Single? Maybe. Avoid Online Dating Lies and More

At first glance, you’re impressed with the profilesresponding to those who are members of your dating
of several attractive, successful singles. But, what yoursite.
friend failed to tell you is that what you see online,Little lies. So you recently arranged to meet that single,
isn’t always what you get in person.6’4”, trim and muscular, brown-haired former
According to Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right Onecollege basketball captain whom you found online.
and Together Dating, the largest brick-and-mortarUpon meeting in person, you find out that the only thing
dating service in the world, “Online dating sites aretrue in his description of himself was his hair color.
used by the honest and dishonest alike. Men andSome believe that telling “little lies” on their profile
women use the anonymity of the Web to lie aboutwith regard to a couple inches in height or a couple
their age, appearance, name and even gender. Forpounds in weight won’t matter. Be aware that
example, cheating spouses will use online dating sitesthose who misrepresent themselves on the “little
to hook up with someone when they go out of town.things” may have no problem lying about “bigger
It’s important to be aware of the perils of onlinethings” such as their marital status and age.
dating before you get burned.”Don’t settle for what you read in a profile. Verify
Falzone alerts online daters of the red flags whichthe information they have offered by asking about
signal potential dates to avoid:their age, relationship status, height and weight. They
R U free 2nite? The “texter” who has a fewmay refuse to answer your questions or they may
seconds to send text messages, but is always tooprovide different information. Or, everything may
busy or not available to actually chat on the phone ormeasure up. Regardless, you’ll have a better idea
via email. This type likes communication to be kept to aof that person’s honesty and whether or not you
minimum, unless s/he initiates it. Dates are often madereally want to meet him/her.
and cancelled at the last minute with a variety ofThe “put down”. Avoid the online profile that
excuses used. S/he is often out of town a lot anddisrespects and rips an ex-lover to shreds or simply
inaccessible. These are common signs of someoneinforms you of those aspects s/he doesn’t want in
who is not single and/or not being honest with you.a date. For example, “looking for someone without
Move on. You can do much better.issues - unlike my fat, drunk ex.” Or, “if you’re
Beauty or beast? Beware of dishonesty through photoneedy, jealous and selfish, look elsewhere”. These
misrepresentation. Note that a good profile usuallyare profiles that signal potential anger issues.
provides more than one photo of that person. If theStatements such as these come from someone who
photo looks too professional, chances are, it is – andhas recently ended a relationship or is emotionally
perhaps even “borrowed” from somewherescarred from a past relationship and really not happy.
else. And yes, there are people who deliberately postLeave them be. You don’t need to be their
their high school photo from 15 years ago to attractsounding board or rebound date. They’re not ready
your interest.to date now and won’t be until they can move on.
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